The Way You Ask Question Matters in Shamanic Healing

Why I Care So Much About How You Set Your Question

If you’ve worked with me before, you probably already know that I’m very particular — even a little “picky” — about how questions are phrased.

Some clients joke, “Mira, what exactly do you want? Isn’t my question detailed enough?”
And yes, some people disappear after realizing how much I care about this step!

But there’s a reason I’m so committed to proper question-setting:

How you set your intention is one of the most important parts of the entire healing process.
Nothing shapes a healing session more than knowing why you are coming for healing and what direction you want to move toward.

The kind of questions I often receive…

“I want to start a business. Can you tell me if that’s the right choice?”
“I’m dating an amazing woman. Is this relationship the right one?”
“Helping spirits, please fix my debt (or any other problem).”

These questions are extremely common in many cultural spiritual traditions where I come from. People assume that this is what spiritual inquiry is for.

But there is a hidden pattern in these kinds of questions:

“I don’t have power. I can’t decide. I don’t know. I can’t do anything. So I need an outside force to tell me what to do.”

When the intention behind the question is rooted in powerlessness,
the direction of the healing will follow that powerlessness as well.

But shamanic healing is not about giving your power away —
it is about reclaiming it.

What Shamanism Was Actually For in Ancient Time

Long before modern life, people lived as hunter-gatherers.
Finding food and staying safe were daily challenges.
Their questions for the spirits were practical and survival-based:

“Which direction should we hunt in?”
“How do we track the animals?”
“How can we make better tools or weapons?”

But the spirits never said:

“Stay home and food will magically appear.”
or
“Offer me your clothing and the problem will solve itself.”

The spirits provided guidance — not shortcuts.
Direction, not a free pass.

The people still had to gather, track, work, hunt, create tools, and take action.
Without effort, there would be no long-term results.

In other words:

Shamanic guidance gives direction and method.
Humans provide action and commitment.

Modern Life Is Different —And So Are Our Questions

Today, our basic survival needs are mostly met.
Our struggles tend to be emotional, relational, or spiritual.
But because we forget that action is part of the process, we often unconsciously fall into:

“This is too hard.”
“I can’t do it.”
“I’m not good enough.”
“I don’t want to deal with this.”

But the truth is, we can take action.
Sometimes we simply need:

a direction
a method
a tool
or a new perspective

And small steps — even baby steps — accumulate into meaningful change.

So how should we set a question for shamanic work?

The foundation must be:

“I am capable.”

Then the question becomes:

How can I do this?
What methods or tools can help me?
Where am I missing something or not seeing clearly?
What is the deeper message behind this situation?

Questions focused on what and how are empowering.
Questions about when (“When will this happen?” “When will it get better?”) are far less helpful, because predicting the future doesn’t change your present.
And without action in the present, any prediction becomes irrelevant.

The real power lies in:

“What can I do right now, in this moment, with the right attitude?”

This is where personal power returns.

What Shamanism Really Helps Us With

Shamanism is a way to seek direction, insight, methods, and spiritual support
when we feel lost, overwhelmed, or unsure how to move forward.

It is not a system where spirits decide everything for you
or fix everything for you.

It is a partnership.

Spirits offer guidance.
You bring it into action.
And together, transformation happens.